Wednesday, March 01, 2006

It's finally happened

I'm back on the dating scene again. I've had 2 dates in the last week and it feels so good to be flirted with again. My first date was not unexpected but arranged at the last minute and thanks to some pre-planning on my part, we were able to pull it off. TG, formerly known as Ryan but I just don't like that name, decided that he didn't want to wait around till this week for our date so halfway through tennis on Saturday, he asks me out for lunch. This is where my planning came in handy. Originally I was supposed to get my new chair delivered on Saturday afternoon, but thanks to work being flexible and letting me work from home last week, it was delivered Friday instead. Which meant I had no where to be after tennis so the lunch invite was gladly accepted. We went to a bar/restaurant not far from my house that was really good but expensive. I still can't believe it cost $40 for lunch, but he was a gentleman and paid for everything. Lunch lasted 2 hours and we had great conversation and I felt comfortable with him the entire time. At one point I realized he was talking a little too much about himself, but I wrote that off as nerves and decided to wait and see what he's like in the future. We ended the date with a hug and with a plan to go out for drinks Tuesday night.

The good thing about going out with TG is that I don't feel nervous around him and I feel like I can be myself. I did have a little indecision when it came to figuring out an outfit for last night, but then I realized that I should dress in whatever makes me happy and not worry about what he will think. If he doesn't like it, that's his problem and then he's not the right person for me. Turns out he was very happy with how I was dressed and made a point to say so a few times throughout the evening. Amazing what jeans and a little black sweater can do to a guy! We ended up playing pool most of the night and it was fun even though we weren't very good. Our last game took forever because we both just couldn't sink anything, but it was nice to see how he handled himself, especially when I kicked his butt. After pool, we moved to the bar area to chat and finish our drinks but I didn't last long. The smoke in the bar was too much for my lungs (I'm just getting over a cold) so I started coughing up a storm. He felt bad for me so we settled the bill and headed outside where he walked me to my car and gave me a long kiss goodnight.

All in all, it was a good night. He's sweet, he values his family and is fun to be around. At some points during the evening I did feel like I was being interviewed though. It was reminiscent of a match date I had years ago where I was just bombarded with questions instead of finding things out in a more natural way. Some questions were no big deal - 'what's your favourite colour? what type of music do you like? what's your favourite movie?' But then some got a little more strange - 'do you like chocolate? what if I got you a 6' chocolate bunny?' I still don't understand where he was going with the whole chocolate bunny thing.

He also gave me the impression that he's the type of guy who wants to impress his dates, and made the point of telling me that he was planning to give me a birthday card last night but never got around to buying the card. Was that supposed to impress me, that he thought about doing it but couldn't be bothered to follow through? It didn't. It just makes me question his motives a little and it's a little yellow caution flag being thrown in my mind. The more I write about the date the more it sounds like I didn't have fun, but I did have fun with him. I think I'm just trying to be more aware of my initial feelings and gut instincts so I can look back later and see if they were accurate. Will I go out with him again? Yes, but not for a couple of weeks because I'll be in Arizona this weekend and he'll be in California when I get back.

Posted by Maple :: 11:12 AM :: 2 Comments:

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